I would answer, I just want to feel free and safe. I have a battle on my hands, life has tried to tear me down before and I wont let it just yet..You choose to be happy, Woah that is one crazy situation both of you are dealing with. My girlfriend has jealousy along with paranoia, anxiety, post traumatic stress disorder and some depression. I am a twenty year old student. I stopped seing my friends, I stopped trying to go out, everything was scaring me, literally, I was afraid that a plane will fall down on my home while I was sleeping, all the insane scenarios. As men we dont have an option. you're being dragged down by your partner, suddenly feel yourself worrying constantly, the balance between sleep and wakefulness, leave you feeling perfectly drained of energy. I always stopped everything to help her, to stay hours remind her how she is incredible. deep thoughts in my head And they just keep dragging me down there down so deep Dragging me down so deep Dragging me down so deep Dragging me down so. So the question, as you insightfully pose, is where do you go from here? I dont see it getting any better. I need to know, I was engaged to get married to her but we called it off. This often happens when too much stress causes hyperarousal, which can upset the balance between sleep and wakefulness, according to the National Sleep Foundation. This really got to me, he is my first love! Im not talking about that Mexican guy that lives down the street. From hair trends to relationship advice, our daily newsletter has everything you need to sound like a person whos on TikTok, even if you arent. I know she deals with her own issues and Ive known for quite some time, but I see it more often now. Please fill out all required fields to submit your message. I fought with my boyfriend just to feel close to him for a while, to be able to talk. my girlfriend has depression and is anorexic. And thats when shit will get unbearable for the two of you. So it can really, truly suck when you realize your relationship is dragging you down. There is more to life than this, trust me. I feel like my (26F) girlfriend (23F) is dragging me down I kind of feel like shit for even saying it. I am sometimes even tempted to leave her because she is holding me down (work/school). Medication and therapy dont really work. Ive been with my girl for over 4 months now, but we have been good friends for more than 7 years. These people are emotionally selfish they may not do it on purpose but they will take away everything that defines you and then you will be a empty shell . It's up to you to decide how to handle that. and the thing with sex: if you are curious and want to understand: It works for me (I dont really have a hobby Im just at school all the time). Anyway, now we are almosr 3 yrs together and from the start of this year she finally admited being alcoholic and she started treatment process, with medications and therapy. The burden on caretakers is significant, and there is great therapeutic value in realizing you are not alone. Than it all started to fade, she had weekly outbursts after we met, we had a lovely weekend, then, the other day, she was always very depressed or even aggressive, treating herself very badly, being jealous on my friends, depreciating herself. She doesnt like it when I do my own thing or want to go out or have something in my life other than her. She will text or call me out of blue and tell how much she appreciates my patience with her. At the end of the day, I just believe that depression was just an excuse. Today she told me shes ditching all her meds and is just gonna do weed therapy. Kind regards, The GoodTherapy Team, Im going through a similar thing, Ive been with my girlfriend for 4 years, shes been through childhood trauma, depression, anxiety, borderline personality disorder, shes friendly when normal, considerate of others, respects me, whenever theres an emotional issue , though not my fault, she became destructive, recklessly destroyed everything she could see, started to be indifferent to me, aloof, aggressive, self-harm, said a lot of negative things, i love her i tried meditating and Self hypnosis to deceive my emotions, I dont know what to do, I dont know how long I can hold on, Im afraid Im really broken, it will hurt everyone. I am opinionated and very understanding. Shes suffered from depression throughout our relationship. Help me drag the camping gear down the hill. You mention that your girlfriends medication does not seem to be helping her. Ive never been so stressed and sad and angry my whole life. I didnt know about it. As time went on our texts started to get more and more one sided as i would ask about her day and i would help her with any problems she had, but she would always start complaining about her problems and never actually talking about mine. Her aggression and fights are only there to tell you that she needs help, and help in this case is outside you two therapy, friends, new experiences. If your partner isn't nice, or loving, or supportive in any way, it can leave you feeling perfectly drained of energy. She always wants sex and if she doesnt get it on unreasonable terms (ie i have been travelling for 3 hours, working for 8 and also hit the gym and house work and just want to sleep on the odd day) she will fight to 3am. But I just dont know anymore. If things aren't going well, if there's a lack trust, or if you don't feel secure, then it makes sense that anxiety might become an issue. You tend to put blame on you, stop doing this. I am torn she is stunning and beautiful, cooks, looks after me but she doesnt look after herself. I love her so much and wish I could take her pain away, but I feel ive lost myself and no longer feel happy. Also, it is very important that a psychiatrist, and not a general practitioner, be managing her medication. My girlfriend is dragging me back into depression with her own personal problems. We talked (argued) about the lack of sex and how distant we are and she said that she doesnt feel any of these feelings, and that sometimes we doesnt feel comfortable thinking about sex. Im so hurt lately, and she doesnt give it a mind, and she doesnt barely talk to me on the late days. If so, it could be that your relationship is wearing you out. And it was bad enough that i was married at one time and my Ex wife cheated on me thinking that i was going to spend the rest of my life with her at the time. I was acting like it all was my boyfriends fault, and I sometimes felt like this. Do they really want help? She would start crying, shes wanted to leave home and then denied it the next day, I try to get her to talk about whats going on but she wont. I used to be able to help her cheer up and have a good time with her whenever she was sad but now,I cant do anything without getting an attitude from her or saying something stupid. But how is it possible? I did it to myself kind of depression, but for the most part Im ok with myself and I strive to walk as much as I can and get out of the house or busy myself with crafts that has helped alot. 2. Same for me. Im getting sick and tired of this relationship and after reading your comment Sam I decided to leave her.. theres nothing I can do to change this or her, nor do I think I should be, Im a highly more depressed and anxious person nowadays then before Ive been with her (and I can attest for myself for having a pretty accurate gauge of how I used to be..) I do everything I can to help her, but I feel like I'm just propping her up, and despite the medications she's taking she doesn't seem to ever improve. This girl was everything I wanted, such a good partner, listener, so smart, sensitive. This is verbatim my situation. In cases of chronic depression, it is very common for partners to begin to feel more like caretakers than anything else. Slowly Im staying more time at home. Cmon guys you know the drill. Here are some ways this may happen. On my side my family is going through a very rough time and were worried about losing our home, Im going through a quarter-life crises where I dont know what I studied is the right thing for me, Im also really worried about my future because I dont know where Im heading in life. He is also seeing a psychiatrist who has advised he doesnt work I am doing 3 jobs to pay for my divorce as he is going to go bankrupt with his business =- because he couldnt face going in to work except at lunch time. Thank you for reaching out. But she keeps going back to him for friendship,what the eff am I for her now? Wow. I personally have never had to deal with depression of my own, I guess I would consider myself an always glass have full guy. If that person still doesnt change then it may be time to leave. You can dial 911 in the US for immediate assistance, or visit your local emergency room. I dont know if you know Jesus, and sorry if I sound like a religious nutcase now but Im really trying to help you. My Girlfriend's Depression Is Bringing Me Down. Two nights ago after a weekend of not really talking that much as she was very down and I was super busy with work, we spoke on the phone and she told me she needed to be alone and deal with this, because her depression was the worst its ever been. My girlfriend has been depressed for a number of years, unable to shake feelings of sadness and hopelessness that carry over into almost every aspect of our life together. So you see, these emotions are complicated, you have trace them few steps back to understand what is really going on. thanks for everyone comments! My advise to you would be: Dont be too stressed out about it. My sleep have been deprived for over 6 months. Being long-distance, you are actually BETTER OFF than if you were local! Sounds to me like a bunch of spoiled princesses. But when you have a hobby, do make sure that you are always there for her when she needs you. Recently, she insulted both my mother and I in her home. The 3 Cs: You didnt Cause it, you cant Control it, you cant Cure it. she knows im here for her. One Direction - Drag Me Down (Official Video)Follow on Spotify - https://1D.lnk.to/SpotifyListen on Apple Music - https://1D.lnk.to/AppleMusicListen on Amazo. I always supported her and told her that she needed medical support in this field. Ad by TruthFinder Have you ever googled yourself? v. 1. We r loving since 5-6 years! I love her but I just think staying will be self destructive for me and just enabling to her. Read the book co-dependent no more. In order for her to have a chance at any kind of substantive change and lasting relief, she needs to be working on these issues in therapy. She had issues before with sex and that was part of why she drank. The specific mention of medication but not therapy makes me wonder whether your girlfriend is in therapy. "My problem is that since we have moved in together, she is negative about everything." My girlfriend and I have been together for three years. Life was perfect. I can not just do sex all the time Im not a robot. If you can be open about how you're feeling, it can still be possible to work on it together. I experience the exact same thing you are talking about with my girlfriend for one year. But i will never get married again since it really has become very risky for many of us men that have been married the first time. Sam is just absolute right, Ive been with the same girlfriend for 8 years, helping her to cope with her anxiety and depression, which are not mild, in return I became a cranky, fearful and highly depressed individual, as soon as she moved in with me the symptoms became severe and everything was somehow my fault, even though we always lived under my expense (before at my parents, now at a house that i pay for literally everything) shes not willing to work or do anything, she always finds an excuse why something wont work out (she has a doctors degree, and she can do a lot of things with that particular degree she simply refuses to always citing some excuse about how its never going to work). She has now admitted to me that she has battled with depression since she was a teenager (she is 26). So I fight. It was new to me and i didnt know exactly how depressed people behave. Its a selfish decision either way. But she just cries on the phone and says shes fine. 6. I still love him so much, but I think its the best choice for both of us. "Trust is lost and conflict often results in anger and finger pointing." One day she wanted to elope Bcos she feared the crowd at our wedding and the next day she just broke it off completely with no reasons. were so messed up its insane. You create your own reality. I have thought about leaving, but I'm afraid it would devastate her, and I truthfully don't know that she would survive it. My girlfriend has been depressed for 3 years. Can we all agree that that sounds pretty amazing, and most definitely "good? The medications side effect is sex blocking, also with her off alcohol her mind cant deal with emotions as other people, so basicly we had like 3 times sex this year. We had ups and downs for almost a year till i realised that she is alcoholic, and sadlly that the day we met (which i consider the most romantic day i had) she had bottle of wine hidden in her bag. Dear Shady, It drove me to breakdown myself. Consider suggesting that she talk about these possibilities with her psychiatrist and therapist (if she has one). If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. As Dr. Sylvie Stacy said on Livestrong.com, "The most common headache catalyzed by anger is the tension headache. She might be craving for you to cross the distance. I hear your talking and whispers, pale drawn out nails and fingers. If you are tired or stressed I cant do sex. She also started to talk about other guys and how they were getting close to her (which i actually found out the guys she was talking about liked her aswel) but when i ask her to not do anything misleading with them, she started arguing with me and saying i wasnt trusting her. Understand that put-downs are a reflection of the other person's insecurity and get support from trusted confidantes. Taking her depression into her own hands, can that make a person sick? girlfriend is dragging me down I feel that my girlfriend is dragging me down and although she's happy in the relationship I'm not. past experiences? I always tell her I enjoy how she is my first thought when i wake up and the last. Let she feels that you are proud of her. i cant let her go and i know she cant let me go either. He has on multiple occasions told me that he only feels happy, safe and secure around me, and that if it wasnt for me he wouldve killed himself long ago. I feel like iv become more of a tool for relief then her boyfriend, i feel as if she doesnt actually care for me but all she wants is me to make her happy. Good Luck Everyone. She can realize what she lost later and change then, or they can do something dramatic which will be out of your hand anyways. But I feel so guilty and ashamed and like a failure for wanting this and I dont know what to do. If signs point to your partner, it's time to make a change. She was not like this when we first met. Its created a weird dynamic in our relationship which has all but ruined our sex life. Method 1 Addressing It Right Now 1 Avoid reacting immediately. its comforting to know that other couples go through the same things. Should I leave her be and wait for her to consult me? Your girl might decide differently. I like my lectures because I feel like I have room to breathe since there is no internet connection in the lecture theaters. Once you enter your information, youll be directed to a list of therapists and counselors who meet your criteria. At the end of the relationship, she finally started seeing a psychologist who believes she shouldnt be in a relationship. I tried to break up with her but,she couldnt let me ago, how cant she,shes been saying were drifting apart were nothing you dont care about me just stop it.and now shes depressed,or think she is, and Im the one getting all the thoughts all the sadness. One day I thought that she wanted to seek attention by saying that so I confronted her. Well i have a very depressed girlfriend that i am dating at this moment which i do really love her which she is always unhappy when i go over her house. Or sit down and plan something new to try. We stopped having sex last year because of her trauma. She will feel a million times worse than you what about how the other side feel and how they cant cope but just have to sit and wait for them to snap out of by the time they snap out of it they could be going to their partners funeral or word they wont be able to then look after their partner. I wish you answers. (All is Hell) So what am I to her now?? Uffo , I feel like I dont want anything in my life. It is not your role in this case. So that he loves himself. She lives 200 km away from me and Even she could not continue her studies and quit her studies.Its all because of she loves me to core and missing me much! Hell even the break up process reinforces their behavior. Before this everything was amazing, great relationship, we admitted to each other that we were in love and had fallen head over heals, amazing sex, I really felt like I had found my best friend. Now I am questioning myself whether to leave her or hold her.whether she ll feel better later on if I suppose leave her. You are an enabler when you take on others problems to the point where they become your own. Let her take the step and compliment her if she completes it. I strongly encourage you to begin your own therapy. Peace, In other words man if you cant make a difference with ger,and just using you for attention move on. So if your partner isn't pulling his or her weight, you may find yourself feeling like giving up. I have seen suicide attempts, aggression and erratic and forceful ways of keeping me locked in the house every time I threaten to leave. she undergoing medications and therapy but nothing could help her. Step by step. a) Conversation You're looking older but you can't be certain. We started dating a few months after the divorce and (I admit we could have been more responsible of our actions) she is now pregnant with our first child. I can know no one would have got solution. We all have to remain positive people. Maybe your girlfriend finds talking to her friend, who also has the same kind of problem, helpful in some way. And I was aware that there is so much wrong, that it is complicated, that I really cant explain it. Especially when theyre attractive they can just bounce around from bf to bf. She no. Tomorrow my lady and I would be ten months not quite a year, but things have switched off lately. However, i was in a grade above her and graduated and proceeded to get a job so i could support our lives, this made texting hard as i had very early starts and it was very physically and mentally tiring work, however i still texted her as much as possible. I really hope that it is it. Go with her to therapist. Hugs. I am not sure if Im still with her for love, for the codependency that has definitely developed or simply because I have been doing this so long I dont know any different, I have almost the exact same problem. Ive explained my feelings in the past and she says she understands but makes no difference. Atlast I hate the word LOVE with cry. As I read your comments I am beginning to understand what my boyfriend feels. I dont know if that is the case with you too. There are so ways people find happiness and you guys both just need to find yours and you need to know that one day.. You will. She cannot afford therapy. Do a "deep search" instead. I have been dealing with a depressed girlfriend for the last 3 months. Leave. I have a problem and cant find anyone to tell Found that website and the posts here are very similar to mine. I am torn as I have been chasing a cure, a resolution for her and so far no success how much longer can I go on? I asked a lot of questions to learn what the problem is, all she says that everything collapses to her. This makes any conversion on other topics nearly impossible or difficult until her anxieties about her health are addressed. I get it, youre both on the brink every second that goes by and it feels like thats all there is and ever will be. I deserve happiness, everyone does! And if an argument crops up, it almost always goes smoothly (i.e., no screaming, or blaming, or anything horrible like that). Dear Armand, If you're being dragged down by your partner, it could be due to cheating, or emotional abuse, or a lack of support. If I go out without my phone I will find I have around 20-30 messages when I get back all telling me how selfish I am for ignoring her. I feel im depressed, asking myself was actually our sexlife good becuase she was drinking, and that the person im with now has no interest in sex at all? Youve shown your love for her and she knows that. Basically, she pretty frequently attends fancy. I'm seeing shapes behind the curtain. These are just a few questions you and your spouse should sit down and discuss together to see if you're on the same page financially. Even if you haven't done anything wrong, your partner has a way of making you feel bad. I still see him he wrote 2 suicide notes to me and his dad ( when I asked him to leave) and produced them for me to read. Relationships are supposed to build you up, be super supportive, and make you a better person. She did not want to fight, and when I thought finally thing would become better, she just said that she did not have time or energy to focus on the relationship, and wanted to focus on herself. Hey i am in a LDR and i need your help my gf is also depressed, she doesnt tell the stuff she is going through, yea she tells me most of the things but not that. "More importantly, there is balance in the relationship. Im there for her and she knows it. I tried the whole counselling route n psychiatrist with her. But she wouldnt want to talk some nights. Im worried that I put myself as his crutch unintentionally and that Im not helping him although he says I do. You deserve to be happy as well. Prior to start Adobe Premiere Pro 2023 Free Download, ensure the availability of the below listed system specifications. Some people need to just help themselves. She relies on me sitting down and talking sense to her, but I too feel like a caretaker, an older sibling or even a parent sometimes. Ive been there, multiple times. I dunno maybe thats just me. You are in a relationship, you two must have had a reason to be with eachother. It's to the point where her depression is dragging me down with her, though I would never say that to her. Imagine if you stay another couple years, get married, have children, then that person does the unspeakable after that? So I tried communicating a little more and making plans. Good luck and remember the love bit. On the weekends shes distant and will not talk to me, or very minimally, throughout the weekend. From then onwards,my girl friend got suffering from depression slowly.but I was not knowing that and she also didnt share anything to me. Right now, we value the future of our child more than anything else. She is loyal and would care for me no matter what but I cant keep bringing my own life down too to be on her level. But you're dragging me down, down, down, down. We were engaged. Hi Greg, She blames herself for everything, and says incredibly negative and hurtful things about her self. Tissue Issues: My Friend Is Dragging Me Down. I had a 3 month relationship with a depressed woman and it was comparable to a roller coaster ride at Disney land ups and downs it was beyond this world everything was my fault problems was created and misery was the icing on the cake. I dont have depression, I want to have fun and be happy. Now she stopped the medications for a month ago, and still no affection what so ever. Your love will develop as you both learn (with help) how to manage your feelings and youll both be closer having supported one another through this difficult process, July 16th, 2016 at 5:42 AM If you have solution, you are God for me:(, I am crying here because I feel you guys are talking about problem that I am facing. Can anyone help me and tell me what can i do?. Its dragging me down and she wont listen to me and wouldnt want to change her way of thinking for herself or anyone, I hate to say this but I realized she is actually very stubborn and selfish. Everything is my fault according to her. hello, I am this depressed girl, It Feels Like They Always Ask Too Much. Being active/yoga, eating healthy and drinking lots of water can help a lot a lot. Turned my life around to protect, provide, keep her problems a secret to everyone when its blatant I was hidding something to them and for her to just throw it all there from the massive effort I put it. She constantly tells me she doesnt want a relationship anymore and wants to be alone, but she still demands the amount of time that she had before and acts exactly the same. All i see now is cold person who i love and so frustrated by the lack of intimacy. You need to ask is that what you want for the rest of your life. My Friend Is Draining Me! She is in a constant state of less sad at the best of times. I started to be rude and aggressive. she undergoing medications and therapy but nothing could help her. Thats not me! Ching, I thank the universe for you, and you for your response. Now I am devastated, saddened and hurt by the fact my beautiful girlfriend (now ex) is so unwell and theres nothing that I can really do, except offer my support and love. Help is available, and we wish you the best of luck in your search. You couldnt survive being a total mess a hundred years ago and I have high blood pressure because of her. (Cue that sad trombone. I feel for all of you guys! "When youre stressed, your heart starts pumping blood faster through your veins to give you energy to deal with that perceived threat," said Marcelina Hardy on BettyConfidential.com. Its killing me inside as she looks so helpless, vulnerable, alone and she has the face of one of the most beautiful girls you would ever meet. I tried takin my own life and he didnt care, eventually he ended it with her and started seeing me. I even offered to pay for the consultation costs. She has a comfortable home life but is in a constant state of conflict with her parents because of how she is treated.. Namely them trying to get her out on her own after graduating and trying to find a job. We list further resources on this page:https://www.goodtherapy.org/in-crisis.html, If you would like to get in touch with a therapist, you can search our directory for mental health professionals in your area: goodtherapy.org/find-therapist.html. Seeing the change in her every day life and general well-being has been nothing short of a complete shock to me. Im fed up though. Breaking up is my last option but a considerable option because the fact that she is just not paying attention to me, everything is about her and her thoughts only. I consider myself in recovery. Its a positive sign that you seem to have a solid sense not only of where she is, but also where you are. We had went there to plan for an engagement, but all she had for us was a rejection, simply because I don't own a house. I let things change for the negative and even though my instinct knew something was wrong I stuck with it because I am loyal and felt love on a certain level that I thought was worth considering. Its your natural born right to be happy! but she made fun of me she said she wasnt going to read this BS. but in the end in realtionships, its about being happy. Youve managed to take care of your girlfriend and remain connected enough to yourself to come up with these questions. When you've had too much on your plate for a long time, behaviors in your partner that would normally be slightly irritating can feel like major disruptions to your peace of mind. And as you deal with their negativity, you may find yourself no longer interested in things you used to find fun like going out, being social, or, you know, leaving the apartment. That sounds like my issue too. She is very complexed about her weight, her mental issues and the time she has lost in her life. Wow.. so many people with so many similar issues and I thought I was the only one! I was in shock but I have on other option than to fight. We read your comment, and we hear your frustration and unhappiness. Yes, "envier" is a word. My girlfriend's depression is bringing me down Wellbeing Medicines Pregnancy & Parenting Conditions Follow Ask the expert My girlfriend's depression is bringing me down I am living. A healthy relationship will feel secure no matter what. If you have solution, you are God for me:(. Her issues didnt matter to me as she is a very good person, but I didnt see the whole picture. I feel as much like a caretaker as I do a boyfriend. I beat my depression, i became happy again but after a year with my gf and trying to care for her depression i can feel it creeping back again. It would be way worse, and if you leave, then the relationship wouldnt be as big of a crutch and she and you can move on and grow. I dont know how much you have tried already, but why not try it? When you're in a relationship and feeling depressed, two people suffer. Im different then most I let her know I care everyday and all day but at same time I have tons of hobbies that detract from everything. Everything is about your partner. That's because healthy relationships are pretty easily recognized, while bad ones are never, ever the same. Thanks for your testimony Ching. Shes not able to be there for me. And I know hes going to hate me and say I dont understand. I am fine with this, every self respecting man yearns for space of his own, so to me this was the perfect recipe. 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